Postal Letter

My girl friend wont get mad and yell. Why? is that bad?

I like my newgirl friend she is sweet and kind we spend a lot of time together like speificaly monday threw friday from 4-11 and we eat lunch together every day for 1 hour and we work on the same floor and sneak into each others offices for kisses. We started doing this after the first 2 dates we went on(thats 2 weeks) We have only been together for 5 weeks. If we are arguing she clams up after the first mean word and stares at the ground and wont look at me. Then if i say im sorry shes back. If were both mad she will be silent and ecknor me. Then like a hour later I have to beg her to exsplain how i pissed her off and pull the information out of her or conversation. She never yelled at me before or any body. I herd her once yell at a woman for coffing on her. It was week and squeeky i love her but it looked ridicules and week. This sucks cause when i get mad I dont know if i can yell at her. I am afraid it might kill her or she might hate me. for example she eats food with milk but she gets sick from eating it and moody I want to yell at her you idott what are you doing i want you to be happy and why should i have to deal with your moodyness if you eat what your not supose too. But not just that how can i be with some one who can exspress anger or where i cant exspress anger. And will she blow up and kill me like a postal worker. I live in the bronx if you have advice or know a group meeting for people with this problem. Oh i tried to piss her off enuff to get her to let it out she just starts wining and pouting.

Public Comments

1. is not bad actually , for me . if my boyfriend dont get mad and yell at me it will be so great .
2. There is no such mood as anger, it is a reaction to sadness or being hurt. She doesnt yell at you because she has a different reaction to stress, others crack jokes, which is a normal reaction with many people. She could have possibly had a previous relationship that was verbally abusive and she is scared, but just because she gets quiet doesnt mean she'll go postal. Why are you trying to piss her off. The job of a boyfriend/ girlfriend is to try to make the others day better, not pick fights. All women are moody, TO A CERTAIN EXTENT. Maybe some would consider you moody for the actions you take to piss her off. Maybe she cares about you and it is her way of trying to stop a fight. Besides if yall are fighting this much after five weeks and you are trying to piss her off maybe you shouldnt be together.