Postal Letter

Why my family is hateful?

im 19 turning 20 years old in october this year and well im a adult and im going to school in sacramento,ca to uti and i worked so hard for a long time now i saved up so much money and i had my plan set perfectly and i was set and i am set now and i go in 2 months and my family keeps telling me i cant do it it's dangerous you dont know anyone and you can get killed and robbed and anything can happen to you if anything happens to me no one will be there to help me and i'll be stuff and im in ohio by the way so it's far but they keep going on and on about this to me trying to stop me they know how bad i want this im going to move there because i always wanted to live on that side of the country and start a new life and go to school and get my degree and do the career job i always wanted to do im determined about this and no one can stop me no matter what im smart i can defend myself i take care of myself im not careless at all i rely on myself if anything happens i fall back on myself im prepared for anything and everything and im sick of them telling me i cant do anything or im defenseless and they had to get out there on their own one day and they did and are doing good and have a family and a nice home and cars and much more why in the hell cant i do the same they were my age and did it all but now i cant because the world is crazy and somthing will happen to me and all kinds of other bull i mean to i have to be under some kind of tie till im 30 or 40 years old you know im sick of it when they do things no one is on them like this they go and do it what anyone else says doesn't matter but when i do it it's like i dont want you doing that it pisses me off to the fullest and im ready to go off.im not gonna let them or anyone hold me back from doing what i want and need to do living your life by what others want and not getting out there in the real world and doing it for your self your never gonna be happy or get anywhere and their trying to control me and make me do what they feel is right and it's not they want me to go to the schools they want and it's not good for me you cant go to school and then get a good job and work till you retire and be uncomfortable doing it you have to do somthing your happy with and im not happy living here i hate it here with all my mite and i need to leave here and be in a all new enviorment and meet all new people and live good and be happy because im not happy here at all im misserable everyday i work at fedex ground and im going to transfer my job over to sacramento and all i do is work and come home everyday because there';s nothing here at all to do it's dead im sick of it what kind of life is that i work to hard to come home everyday and be misserable because of my surroundings.if anyone has any advice please share im willing to hear anything at this point but i will tell you how i feel i feel im doing good right now for my age because most are not thinking this way as i am and i think im on the right road.i take care of myself im independent and i rely on me and no one else anything happens i fall back on me and i do a hell of a good job better than most people older than me.

Public Comments

1. Alright, I see that you really, really, really want to go to UTI in Sacramento! Well, first off, I don't think that your family is "hateful". I understand that you may use that word right now just because your so pissed off that they are not seeing your way of things. Now, I would like to attempt to explain to you why I feel that way. When you look at it from a parent's point of view, they see their precious child just...leaving them! For good! Many miles away! So, no matter what, even if you are 19 years old, they are STILL going to see you as their baby. They love you SO much - all they want is the very, very best for you. Nothing less! And the last thing that they want to see happen to you is, like you said, not have any friends, be robbed because you don't know the area like you do home, be killed, etc. etc. So, just step in their shoes for a while. Okay, let me put it this way - when you were 14, 15 years old you felt like you could take on the world!! But looking back your like whoa!! I was just a baby! As you have grown you have gained more and more experience and still you feel like you could take on the world. Watch, once your in your 30s, 40s, maybe even late 20s you'll look back on this day and go "holy SH**!! I was SO young!!" Thats how your parents feel. Yes, you are right. They DID just get up and go off on their own one day - and i'm sure they felt just how you are feeling now. Now they look back and go - "wow..we didn't even know what we were doing!! We were just kids!" Do you see? They have been there done that. They just want the best for you, thats all. Do you see now? Anyway, the best way to approach all of this is to tell your parents that this is what you want to do (which they already know) and show them that you ARE responsible enough to "take on the world". Show them that you DO have a job. You DO have the money to make it all happen. You DO have a place to live etc. etc. Right now they are FREAKING OUT! They don't know whats going to happen to you! So, ease their minds by showing them that you're ready to make a life for youself. Easier said, show them that you are better prepared then they ever were. And don't forget all the "i love yous" along the way! Remember this is all easier said then done, your gonna need a heavy amount of pursuasion! But I wish you the very best of luck and I hope you get to where you want to be :) Hope this helped you out a bit!